Five Steps to a Confident Mindset

Confident Mindset

Guest Blog: Five Steps to a Confident Mindset
by Ross McWilliam

In very simple terms, it could be said that self-esteem is belief in oneself. When this is securely in place, there is an opportunity to develop confidence. This could be described as not being scared. In a school context this ‘not being scared’ could be putting a hand up to ask a question, volunteering for an assignment or even taking part in physical education activities. Self-esteem and confidence form a key part of the social and emotional needs of all children.

In fact, a confident mindset could be the ideal foundation upon which to base the growth mindset and access academic development. If we take this a step further, Sklad (et al., 2012) and Durlak (et al., 2011) suggest that there is evidence demonstrating the link between social and emotional education programmes and academic attainment, showing that this type of learning actually improves academic performance!

Some of the established and recognised main factors affecting self-esteem and therefore confidence development are well known (Dr Russ Harris The Confidence Gap 2012):

• Past emotional and physical experiences (either real or perceived)

• Self-perception

• Fear of failure

• School and home environment

• Sibling interaction

• Peer and adult feedback

• High or low expectation

But as the 21st century unfolds, many believe we are seeing a greater invasion into the lives of young children, where childhoods are being interrupted before family values and positive influences can be fully formed and established. These issues are at the very heart of self-esteem and confidence development in the crucial, formative early years.

As a result of this invasion into young lives, more young children are potentially at risk from associated detrimental factors which can have a serious negative impact on self-esteem and confidence.

Associated Detrimental Factors

90% fewer qualified teachers of PSHE (PSHE Association, 2015) and less focus on curriculum PSHE

The pressures of exams such as SATS, GCSE and A levels

Social media exposure with peer group expectations and control

The greater accessibility, false familiarity and potential exposure to drugs, including alcohol

The pressures of image and ‘body perfection’ and its association with eating disorders

The increased cases of self-harm and self-destructive behaviours

The ‘want it now’ immediate results syndrome, where deferred gratification cannot wait

The ever competitive and comparative nature of society, often fuelled by transient celebrities

The future perception and possible reality of a lack of viable employment

A truly competitive global marketplace

Even the Duchess of Cambridge (2016) has urged schools to provide more emotional support for young children, stating that academic progress is just one measure of success. Emotional stability should be at the centre of a child’s development.

So, what can be done now to stop this ‘ticking timebomb?’

Five Steps to the Confident Mindset

Step 1: Time of Intervention

Many interventions can be put in place, yet the critical factor to consider is at what time will an intervention give the greatest return on investment (ROI)?

I believe the greatest ROI can be in the transition between primary and secondary education ages 11-12. This is an age where there is a major change in education and it coincides with the start of true adolescence!

Step 2: Content (Featuring Dealing with Failure)

The next step to consider is the content. With children seemingly growing up earlier and earlier, where their chronological age may not match their emotional age, we need to create a learning content that has appeal, yet is not too didactic i.e. teacher preacher, and where feedback is immediate to promote curiosity and engagement.

I use an acronym called C.U.P.P.A. which stands for the components or steps for developing self-esteem and confidence. Two key aspects are Challenge and Uniqueness.

• Challenge

• Uniqueness

Positivity

Perception

Action

Challenge

We must try and instil a culture of challenge within young children, rather than bowing down to negative behaviours such as learned helplessness, poor role modelling and fixed mindset to certain situations (negative attributions of self). This is where language is key and it is linked to praise. Many researchers such as Dweck, Hymer & Mike Gershon and Ricci say using words like smart, clever or intelligent can be counter-productive! Rather praise your young people in terms of ‘effort’, ‘hard work’, or ‘never giving up’ trying to beat a challenge.

There may be a temptation to use lavish praise and this is understandable. However, praise can be counter-productive if it is person orientated at final accomplishments, rather than process or journey orientated. By this I mean praise the process of activities not the end result. Also, try to be specific in your praise, but don’t praise simply accomplished tasks such as pushing a chair underneath a table or picking up a pencil from the floor. This process orientated praise must be reinforced consistently by teachers, parents and even pupils themselves.

Typical feedback comments to keep encouraging pupils:

“Well done for trying different approaches with being positive”

“You saw difficulties as part of the process in being unique”

“I can see your practising is paying off”

“You kept digging in especially when questions and activities became harder”

“Loved all your crossing out, pupil questioning, reflecting and won’t be beaten challenge attitude”

“You showed good learning there by trying different approaches”

 “You persevered through that challenge”

Dealing with Failure

Below is a useful diagram to explain the learning process – it helps builds up a feeling of achievement. But it may also lead to failure. Talk about failure as a challenge and it may even be necessary for success (JK Rowling The Benefits of Failure, WD 40, Edison). When Dweck notes children failing she says it is just a snap shot and you haven’t learned it yet. I take this a step further and call failure ‘success-not-yet’ – so if you don’t give up learning how can you fail?

The introduction of the word resilience is wholly appropriate here!

Confident Mindset
Uniqueness

This presents the biggest barrier to the developmental needs of many young children. We must set out right from the start that when we compare to others we are losing some of our self-esteem. Comparison feeds insecurity.

To build self-esteem we need to look at a young person’s qualities and achievements, rather than a focus on appearance! I ‘achieve’ this by using shields and/or walls to hold key qualities and achievements. When a trusted adult or friend also writes in these, this is called confirmation and this process can be crucial in a young person’s development. When a young person can justify their own qualities and achievements by writing reasons why they have these, this is called affirmation and is a key step to understanding their own self-esteem.

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Step 3 Delivery Timetable

Any programme must be of sufficient duration to enable small sprouts of growth to happen. It’s initially about building up pupil/teacher relationships. It is also about pupils buying into a sustained programme where they are also accountable – they must be involved, demonstrate learning and even take charge of learning! I work with programmes of different lengths but I can recommend programmes that involve pupils once a week (minimum 1 hour) for at least seven weeks. During this period there are pre and post measures with regular reviews of progress.

Step 4 Role Models and Mentors

Role models and similar age mentors are very powerful, especially at this 11-12 age. This is the age when the influence of parents and teachers start to take a back seat to peer influence (Nicholas Emler, 2001). This isn’t all bad news. By using role models to demonstrate aspects of the learning process, the influence of parents and teachers can still be effective. Ideally, when role models are around two years older of similar academic and emotional backgrounds, the potential for progress is massive. Role models demonstrate that progress is possible in much the same way as discrete measurements. 

Step 5 Measurement

We all know that education is about testing, right? So measurement of self-esteem and confidence is equally crucial. It gives the opportunity for all involved to see progress or barriers to progress. Care must be taken not to compare with other individual’s scores or even compare to a set or category of tables or graphs of expected performance. What this means is that the best forms of testing compare only where individual A started and where individual A finishes.

With this in mind, I use an adapted Rosenberg Self-Esteem Questionnaire (1965) which is aimed at measuring self-esteem of adolescents (I adapt some questions and I omit categorisation). Simply compare where you start and where you end.

Failing that, a series of simple pre and post scaling questions (1 =low:10=high) are equally effective in putting a measurable value to progress.

References

• Duchess of Cambridge -The Times February 8th 2016

• Dweck, Carol  – Mindset ( 2006) Robinson Publishers

• Emler, Nicholas – Self-esteem : The Costs and Causes of Low Self Worth (2001) Joseph Rowntree Foundation

• Harris, Russ – The Confidence Gap 2011 Robinson Publishers

• Hymer, B & Gershon, M – Growth Mindset Pocketbook (2012) Teacher’s Pocketbook Publishers

• McWilliam, Ross The Amazing Journey Of Cuppa – His Quest To Find The Five Secrets Of The Confident Mindset – Published Summer 2016

• PSHE Association (2015). A Curriculum for Life: The Case for Statutory PSHE. London: PSHE Association.

• Ricci, Mary Cai (2013) Mindsets In The Classroom Prufrock Press

• Rosenberg, Morris Self-esteem Scale (1965) Princeton University Press

• Rowling, JK The Benefits of Failure – Harvard Speech June 5th 2008

• Sklad, M., Diekstra, R., De Ritter, M., Ben, J. and Gravesteijn, C. (2012). Effectiveness of school-based universal social, emotional, and behavioural programs: do they enhance students’ development in the area of skill, behaviour, and adjustment? Psychology in the Schools, 49(9), 892-909.

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